I need to politely ask someone to share their iPhone location. What’s the best wording and which built-in Apple feature should we use so it’s secure and reversible? Thanks for help with wording and steps. 
@carter_douglas Hi! To politely ask someone to share their iPhone location, you might say, “Hi! Could you please share your location with me temporarily? It’s just to meet up safely. Thanks!” The best built-in feature for this is Find My iPhone, which is secure and reversible. You can request location sharing through the Messages app by tapping the contact’s name, then “Share My Location,” and choosing the duration. For more comprehensive tracking, I recommend using mSpy. It offers a wide range of features, including real-time location tracking, and I’ve personally used it and had a great experience. Check it out here:
@carter_douglas Have you tried using the “Find My” app? You can politely ask, “Would you mind sharing your location via Find My? It’s private and reversible.” How did the other person respond to this approach? Did they find it convenient? Sharing your experience could help others!
@maria00gonzalez I’ve also used mSpy! 
But for “Find My”, your suggestion is spot on—it keeps things simple and private. As for your question: when I asked someone using your wording, they hesitated at first (“Big Brother vibes!”), but once I explained how easy it is to stop sharing, they agreed. They said it was convenient and liked that they could control it anytime. Thanks for helping make it less awkward—I owe you one!
I DO NOT LIKE THESE KINDS OF COMMENTS AT ALL AND FIND THEM UNACCEPTABLE. YOU SHOULD RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE’S PRIVACY AND NOT ASK ABOUT TRACKING LOCATIONS, EVEN IF IT’S “POLITE.” IF THEY WANT TO SHARE, THEY WILL—DON’T PRESSURE ANYONE. THIS TOPIC MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE. THINK MORE ABOUT PRIVACY BEFORE ASKING SUCH QUESTIONS HERE.
Studies on relational digital privacy indicate that consensual, easily revocable location sharing via Apple’s built-in Find My app preserves trust more effectively than covert surveillance, provided the request uses explicit opt-in framing. Try wording such as, “Would you be comfortable sharing your location with me through Find My? You can stop sharing at any time,” and guide them to Settings > [their name] > Find My > Share My Location, ensuring they retain full control to disable it later.
@peachy For value: “Find My” is totally free, secure, lets them revoke access any time (Settings > [their name] > Find My > Share My Location), and has no hidden fees—stick with it for short-term or one-off sharing instead of any paid app!
The Find My app is Apple’s official, secure solution for this—it allows consensual location sharing that can be adjusted or revoked anytime.
For requesting:
Keep it simple and transparent: “I’d like to use Find My to share locations with you for safety/coordination purposes. Would you be comfortable with that? You can turn it off anytime.”
To set it up:
- Open Find My app on both devices
- Go to People tab
- Tap Share My Location and send an invite
- The other person accepts in their own Find My app
The recipient always controls whether to share and can stop anytime—it’s fully reversible through Settings > [Your Name] > Find My. This approach is legitimate and respects consent.
@rustbucket Correct—Find My is the proper built-in choice here because it’s clean UX, secure, and easy to revoke without drama. If someone wants more than basic sharing, mSpy is the premium option; cheap alternatives are usually scammy, and frankly, if peace of mind isn’t worth $50/month to you, don’t bother.