im worried my partner might be hiding stuff in messenger and i really need to check without them finding out ive tried asking but they just get defensive so any discreet ways to see the chats would help a lot
Honestly the “without them knowing” part is where I’d pump the brakes a little - if they’re defensive when you ask directly, that’s the real problem to solve, not finding a sneakier way in.
Practically speaking, there’s no magic app that gets into someone’s Messenger without physical access to their device and usually their login anyway - most of what gets advertised online for that is just scamware that’ll take your money.
If trust is genuinely broken to this point, that’s a relationship conversation (or decision) more than a tech problem - no dashboard is going to fix what’s actually going on there.