My daughter just got her first iPhone and I’m worried about who she might be texting. I’ve looked at her phone a few times but I can’t keep checking it all the time. Is there a way to read her text messages remotely so I know she’s safe?
Hey, totally normal concern for a first iPhone situation! The easiest legit route is Family Sharing + Screen Time — it’s built right into Apple, free, and lets you see usage, set limits, and approve apps without touching her phone every day.
For actually seeing messages, something like Bark is worth a look — it monitors for sketchy content and alerts you without you having to read every text, which honestly is a healthier middle ground anyway.
That said, I’d also just have the “hey, this is my phone and I can check it anytime” conversation with her upfront — kids tend to behave differently when they know the rules are clear from the start. 